When we talk about resilience, we think about “bouncing back”. But what are we bouncing back to?
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Drowning in a glass of water: a treatise on the perspective change required for resiliency
It’s important to be kind to others in their struggles. After all, feelings are valid, it’s what we do with them that matters. And it’s for this reason that when I think of the phrase “drowning in a glass of water”, it rubs me the wrong way. It can seem ableist, or just downright dismissive of other’s perspectives and varying abilities and challenges. That being said, there is one way in which it may be more valuable than it seems at first glance, and that is when we start to ponder the idea of resiliency.
Continue reading “Drowning in a glass of water: a treatise on the perspective change required for resiliency”I’m still here, I’m alive.
I look around, and I see the groans of a people saying “I’m still here, I’m alive, technically.”
While this may not be a proper post, I wanted to try to put to words how I’ve been feeling, because maybe some of you have been wondering, worrying. And because maybe a part of me has been wondering myself.
I’ve been feeling like most things are useless lately. Maybe it’s nihilism, maybe it’s depression, global awareness, or just growing up. And it’s not pretty.
I’m not asking any of you for help, encouragement or money or anything. I know I’ll be alright, and at the same time, I won’t. I guess that’s kind of the point.
Every day I wake up and I think how very grateful I am to be alive, even if it feels like this right now, so heavy. And it’s not because I have hope that things will get better, even though I do, and they probably will, eventually. But really, it’s that life, even at its hardest, is so beautiful. Heck, maybe even one of life’s most beautiful things is its’ pain.
I can’t help but thinking that I’ve been neglecting things lately. I can’t help but thinking it because it’s true. Everything seems to have fallen by the wayside and I don’t even really know what’s a priority anymore. I love writing, but what’s the point? I wonder what there’s even left to say these days. I’m debating even posting this because it seems too depressing for this site, especially when this was always supposed to be a place to help people.
But I’ve decided to, just now, as I’m writing this sentence, because this…is real. And I think that after everything that I’ve been through and everything that we all have been through I almost owe it to you all, my readers, to be real.
So here it is. For many reasons, and a long time now, my heart has been really heavy. I’m in love with life and the world still, and I don’t know what either have in store for me, but I’m still celebrating them. I hope that wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, you do the same. This world doesn’t need you to be happy, it needs you to show up when you can. To be real. To connect with others and celebrate life while we have it to share in. I’m so proud of you for making it this far, for choosing the best options that you can find in the moment. And I’m grateful that you’re on this earth at the same time as me. I don’t know what lies ahead of me, or of us. But thank you for waking up and giving it a chance every day.
No New Year’s Resolution? No problem!
Happy New Year from the Thoughts that Bind!!! We’re all feeling that familiar turn of the wheel, change of the calendar on the wall. And I’m hearing all these people talk about how this year is going to be their year, a better year, a building year, and all those things that people say in late December and early January. And as usual, it’s got me feeling pretty reflective.
Continue reading “No New Year’s Resolution? No problem!”There is no answer
Looking to get better? Think that you might just be the most miserable person in the world due to your personality or past experiences? Well, you’ve come to the right place. Today, we’re going to talk about how nothing works and there’s no answer. But don’t worry, there’s hope for you yet!
Continue reading “There is no answer”Procrastination to manage anxiety
Procrastination gets a bad rep. And rightfully so. When we push things off until the last minute, if we don’t finish everything we needed to, or we do but not at the established timeline. That being said, it isn’t all bad.
Continue reading “Procrastination to manage anxiety”Why I Destroyed All My Old Diaries
I’ve been keeping a diary for a long time—since I was eight years old. And being a writer, the pages have piled up over the years. I’ve kept diaries for my feelings, my daily events, my ideas, my spiritual journey, nearly everything you can think of. And until recently you could find it all on my bookshelf. But why?
Continue reading “Why I Destroyed All My Old Diaries”Life isn’t all about rules
When you stop looking at things in terms of rules, you become freer. You don’t need to impede your freedom to make good choices. Neither do you need to give yourself a bunch of rules to follow.
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Outliving your roots–reflections on grief and moving forward
The longer you live in this life, the more your perspective has the opportunity to change. And the wiser you are, the more you will take advantage of the circumstances and choose to allow them to change you.
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