MissBekah, Author at The Thoughts that Bind

August 1, 2020July 15, 2020

Expectations of others-My Two Cents

There was a song that we used to sing when I was a little girl, that was accompanied with a hand game or dance or whatever you want to call it. It started like this, “I went to a Chinese restaurant, to buy a loaf of bread, bread, bread, the lady asked what my name was, and this is what I said, said, said” and then it goes on with a long string of nonsense that if I never hear again, it’ll be too soon. But I was thinking about it today. And I don’t know about Chinese restaurants in your area, but in mine, I’ve never seen them selling loaves of bread.

July 29, 2020August 6, 2020

How useful is motivation?

Hello everyone, and welcome back to the Thoughts that Bind! We talk so much on here about doing the work and achieving our goals (and so on), so today I thought we’d address an aspect of it that we haven’t really before: motivation.

July 25, 2020August 3, 2020

Making the world a better place: my two cents

It’s been on my mind a lot lately, this idea of making the world a better place. And it’s not really a new subject on this site anyway. We’ve talked about kindness (here), being a good person (here), as well as educating yourself and speaking up against injustice (which you can find here). But making the world a better place is a broad topic. And as such, there’s obviously more to the concept.

July 22, 2020July 15, 2020

Make your own rules!

I had an epiphany recently. I was sitting down in my living room when it hit me, that my life was my own, to do whatever I want with. To many of you, this may seem like an obvious thing. And to me it is too, except it hit me weird. Let me explain.

July 18, 2020July 28, 2020

Write a letter (to yourself)

Today, we’re wrapping up our letter-writing extravaganza, or at least for the foreseeable future. I hope that I’ve given you a helpful concept to play around with, and that you write your own letters. Letters that I’ve suggested, but also letters of your own, that are undeniably valuable and that I would have never had the details to suggest to you. If you’re not familiar with this concept and this is your first time here, you can go back and read the initial concept of this series here. Or you can go to any one of these posts for a suggestion of a letter to write to help you work through your thoughts and emotions, as well as leave this world a brighter place. (1 2 3 4 5 6 7)

July 15, 2020July 7, 2020

What self love means to me

July 11, 2020September 7, 2021

Write a letter: to someone who hurt you

Hi everyone! We’ve got a pretty serious concept in our letter-writing today, which is a letter to someone who has hurt you. If you want to read about the basis for letter writing first, you can click here. And to look at the last letter we wrote, go here. But now, let’s dig in.

July 8, 2020July 7, 2020

How to live your best life (the art of priorities)

July 1, 2020May 28, 2020

Triggers vs. Boundaries

There’s a page in my diary that has just one sentence on it. It says, “Triggers are different than boundaries, but both are relevant.” I wrote it when I was feeling wistful, trying to communicate with myself a concept that was fuzzy to me, in language I didn’t right then understand. I do that often, when I write to myself. Make vague statements and metaphors that feel so right, and then later I come back to them to see if they have any weight. This one did. And we’re going to talk about it today.

June 24, 2020June 24, 2020

How to follow your dreams after quarantine

If recent global events have taught us anything, it’s that life is short. Or at least, it can be. And that alone is enough to give us some perspective about what’s truly important. We realize that maybe our jobs are just income sources, that we really don’t make enough time for self-care or that we don’t prioritize our loves ones nearly enough. And dreams, I think, fall into this category as well.