Living life as it comes
Hello, and welcome back to the Thoughts that Bind! Now, we talk a lot on this site about how to succeed in life and make yourself stick to what it is that you want to get done. These skills are incredibly important when it comes to being able to live a life that you’re proud of. But at some point, it all falls flat. Because it’s not the be-all, end-all for life. And today, I want to talk about the other side of that coin.
Continue reading “The toxic pressure of success”
Hello, and welcome to the Thoughts that Bind. If you’ve been following us for a while, then welcome back!
Today, we’re going to be talking about a very important question. And while I think it’s important to mention that it has no specific correct answer, there are very many points to be discussed when thinking this over. So remember as you’re reading, this conversation is one of nuance and opinion, not of objective correctness. With that in mind, let’s dig in.
Continue reading “Can you waste your life?”
I hear so many people say that they feel like they have to be the strong one or they want to be strong for their loved ones when they’re having a hard time. Things like that. But I don’t think we take nearly enough time to reflect on what exactly that means.
I hate to be the one to try to push positivity on people who are hurting. All my growing up years, it seemed that anytime I would feel negative emotion, there would be someone telling me why I shouldn’t feel that way. Or why I didn’t have to. Why I was wrong or should be looking on the bright side.
And now, years later, I still very much dislike the reaches of toxic positivity. I’ve covered it before on this site, I think it’s very important to acknowledge and fully feel our feelings—even the ones that present as negative. In my opinion, the only way we can work through these feelings is by acknowledging them for what they are and letting ourselves feel them. This is the beginning of the real emotional work, not denial. And if you want to learn more about this subject, I recommend reading my post about it here.
Continue reading “The worst things in life could be your saving grace”
Hello and welcome to the Thoughts that Bind! And if you’ve been around here for a while, welcome back! Today, we’re doing something a little bit different. So let’s get into it, shall we?
Continue reading “Writing/Cleaning + MissBekah’s Growth/Change + Pod19: Covid + Books”
I love self-improvement, reflection and personal development. I read books, write in journals, talk to others and even meditate for guidance. And all these things are great. Really. It’s good to be looking for perspective in life and to value that perspective coming from all different sorts of places. But I bet you don’t need it as much as you think you do.
I’ve spent a lot of time with senior citizens over the years, and one thing was made clear. There are some who treasure their old age and some who don’t. And the difference, I noticed, was vast.
Continue reading “Learning to appreciate the time we have”
I’ve heard some references to Mother Theresa over the years about how if you want to make a change in the world, you need to stop putting your efforts into what you’re against and start putting efforts and energy into what you’re for. (Or something to that effect.) And while I don’t put her up on a pedestal as the best example of a “good human”, I definitely think she had a point there.
Continue reading “Why being “for” something is good for you”
We talk a lot about making yourself proud. Making things easy on your future self, wondering what younger you would have thought about you now. And you know what? I think that overall, younger me would be pretty proud to see who I’ve become today, and who I am still working on becoming. But there are a few things that I know might make her confused, to say the least.
Continue reading “5 Things that I’m proud of (that my past self wouldn’t be)”
