When we talk about resilience, we think about “bouncing back”. But what are we bouncing back to?
Continue reading “Resilience and choosing a different life”Resilience and choosing a different life
Drowning in a glass of water: a treatise on the perspective change required for resiliency
It’s important to be kind to others in their struggles. After all, feelings are valid, it’s what we do with them that matters. And it’s for this reason that when I think of the phrase “drowning in a glass of water”, it rubs me the wrong way. It can seem ableist, or just downright dismissive of other’s perspectives and varying abilities and challenges. That being said, there is one way in which it may be more valuable than it seems at first glance, and that is when we start to ponder the idea of resiliency.
Continue reading “Drowning in a glass of water: a treatise on the perspective change required for resiliency”I’m still here, I’m alive.
I look around, and I see the groans of a people saying “I’m still here, I’m alive, technically.”
While this may not be a proper post, I wanted to try to put to words how I’ve been feeling, because maybe some of you have been wondering, worrying. And because maybe a part of me has been wondering myself.
I’ve been feeling like most things are useless lately. Maybe it’s nihilism, maybe it’s depression, global awareness, or just growing up. And it’s not pretty.
I’m not asking any of you for help, encouragement or money or anything. I know I’ll be alright, and at the same time, I won’t. I guess that’s kind of the point.
Every day I wake up and I think how very grateful I am to be alive, even if it feels like this right now, so heavy. And it’s not because I have hope that things will get better, even though I do, and they probably will, eventually. But really, it’s that life, even at its hardest, is so beautiful. Heck, maybe even one of life’s most beautiful things is its’ pain.
I can’t help but thinking that I’ve been neglecting things lately. I can’t help but thinking it because it’s true. Everything seems to have fallen by the wayside and I don’t even really know what’s a priority anymore. I love writing, but what’s the point? I wonder what there’s even left to say these days. I’m debating even posting this because it seems too depressing for this site, especially when this was always supposed to be a place to help people.
But I’ve decided to, just now, as I’m writing this sentence, because this…is real. And I think that after everything that I’ve been through and everything that we all have been through I almost owe it to you all, my readers, to be real.
So here it is. For many reasons, and a long time now, my heart has been really heavy. I’m in love with life and the world still, and I don’t know what either have in store for me, but I’m still celebrating them. I hope that wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, you do the same. This world doesn’t need you to be happy, it needs you to show up when you can. To be real. To connect with others and celebrate life while we have it to share in. I’m so proud of you for making it this far, for choosing the best options that you can find in the moment. And I’m grateful that you’re on this earth at the same time as me. I don’t know what lies ahead of me, or of us. But thank you for waking up and giving it a chance every day.
Coming to terms with who you’re not
Outliving your roots–reflections on grief and moving forward
The longer you live in this life, the more your perspective has the opportunity to change. And the wiser you are, the more you will take advantage of the circumstances and choose to allow them to change you.
Continue reading “Outliving your roots–reflections on grief and moving forward”What they don’t tell you about cutting people out
Hello everyone and welcome back to the Thoughts that Bind. (And if you’re new here, a warm welcome to you!) Today we’re talking about boundaries, and specifically cutting people out or “going no-contact”. It’s a subject I’ve covered before on this site a while ago, and I suggest you read this post first, if you haven’t already, as it is a good precursor to our discussion today.
Continue reading “What they don’t tell you about cutting people out”How to gain wisdom (you’re never really finished)
Hello, and welcome back to The Thoughts that Bind! This post is really going to be a general post, which I think is fitting given the topic at hand. But luckily, it’s something that we all can relate to. And that’s the idea that you’re never really going to be done with this life-learning thing.
Continue reading “How to gain wisdom (you’re never really finished)”Why we should still learn colonizer languages
Hello, and welcome back to the Thoughts that Bind. If you’re new here, welcome! Today we’re talking about that juxtaposition between language and history, and what it has to do with us as modern people.
Continue reading “Why we should still learn colonizer languages”No more goals, just live
Today I realized how much of my time I’m wasting chasing goals that I feel like I should be doing. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like they’re not good goals or anything, but I just don’t think they’re mine anymore.
Continue reading “No more goals, just live”Comparison–thief of joy or good practice?
Hello and welcome back to The Thoughts that Bind! I’ve been thinking a lot about comparison lately, and I wanted to share my thoughts with you all. And so, I figured it would be nice to dig into this subject. Because as I’ve realized, it’s not as straightforward as we might think.
Continue reading “Comparison–thief of joy or good practice?”
