Letting life in

  You know, I’m not a really loud and wild person. Back when I was younger, my life dream was to be able to live a quiet life at home with a partner I really loved. Cooking and cleaning, watching movies together, sometimes venturing out for the odd art museum or two. And in fact, I got that dream. But after having lived it for a few years, I’ve realized that my idea for this kind of life wasn’t a complete picture. Let me explain.

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Why are we ashamed? (And shame vs. guilt)

   A while back, I wrote about a post entitled “I’m embarrassed about my past (dealing with shame and guilt)”. And if you haven’t read that one, or don’t remember it, I suggest you check it out because it’s a good one. (You can find it here.) But I wanted to pick up from there today, because after that, you may still be wondering, “Okay, but why is it I feel so ashamed?” And that is a really good point. 

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Is personality fixed? (Or even real?)

   I’ve had lots of conversations about personality over the years, especially ones where personality itself wasn’t being discussed specifically, but rather used as a jumping off point to understand a person or situation or what have you. And it wasn’t until recently that I had sort of an epiphany, from yet another conversation, this one being incredibly short. In fact, I’d almost rather class it as an off-handed comment than a conversation, yet it struck me anyway. 

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After therapy ends: Pt. 1 Therapy should end

   It’s no secret, I’ve talked about therapy a lot on this site. I’ve given you a story of when I was in therapy, a piece on if you should be in therapy, a post on if you should quit therapy, not to mention a smattering of other pieces as well as mentions of therapy in posts where therapy is not the main topic. That’s because it’s been a big part of my getting better, and for those of you who have access and can afford it, I think it could be an important tool for you. (That’s what this is about, after all, expanding our tool belts.) But today, I’m doing something a little different.

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